My Teenage Daughter Keeps Averting The Rules I Set For Coming Back Home. How Should I React?
Most teenagers test the limits that their parents set. One of them is the time limit for when they need to be home. However, even if your child does seem to ignore the limits does not mean you lax by them. You need to first assess whether the time limit you are setting is unrealistic. For instance, in case he or she is repeatedly coming home later than the deadline, you set; it could be an unrealistic one. The best way to check this aspect is to reach out to other parents. Get to know what kind of curfew timings they set. Once you check that out with, other parents, you will know whether what you are doing is reasonable for your son or daughter or not.
It is also important to understand your child’s whereabouts and how trustworthy he or she is handling them. If you are confident that they can handle themselves while out in public and would keep their safety in mind, speak to them clearly about that. State that you trust that they know what they are doing, but the time of coming home is something they need to adhere to.
Even if it means that you lock horns with your child at times, it is important to let them know what are the rules that they cannot break or bend. It might be fine to extend the curfew timing by a few minutes but nothing more. Once your child has realized these points, rest easy. If he or she is more or less on time most days, allow them to be late sometimes when they call in and let you know that they are stuck somewhere. That will help in building the bond of trust between you and your child.